Liking/ Addiction and Weaning/Waning

So then,

There are things that are liking and then there are things that are addiction. Some likings become addictions. such as , drinking, sleeping, procrastination etc. Addictions are marked with obsession, finding reasons to practice, and many other traits that behavioural scientists have researched and documented. I am just theorising on my opinion on getting rid of addiction, and am more concerned about those addiction which are not visible they manifest deep in human mind, and based on individual add dimension to personality. Though more concerned about manifestation of minds but will use examples of visual addiction

My contest is how to get rid of these myriad afflictions of mind. People have one thing to say "ABSTAIN" and i am not a believer of that. Also, I laugh at people who say that they hate not just addictions ( I am talking visible addictions, not what goes on in People mind) but also the afflicted person. I have seen with my own eyes people who hate these so called bad things but eventually took them up in some form or another and were equally worse in giving their special reason for addiction.

Well to cut short this "ABSTAIN" formulae might work when you are addicted to alcohol, or drugs but that never guarantees permanence. My theory based out of my assimilated beliefs and my understanding of operation of human mind is that try weaning or waning.

Give alternate to wean away mind from addiction. That is to encourage moderation and reduce extremism. Pundits of abstinence will ridicule this as moderation is still manifestation and suggest that let there be no desire. Well my response, yes ideally human should be free of desire and should be in total control of senses, but then that is not a majority. Moreover achieving moderation is step 1 .

Other theory is to push the person to T so that he knocks the T from WANTING and goes on path of WANING . What i mean is? let the person go and cherish the addiction as much as person wants to as long as it harms him and not any other individual. When I say other individuals don't factor emotional and selfish reasons. i.e wife of a person who thinks that husband's excessive drinking will ruin her married life. I say let the guy go ahead and drink like fish, let him damage his liver and spend nights drunk on roads with dogs. Let the person enjoy himself in his addictions but make a point to tell them that this is what was available as alternate that would have altered the situation. Let the addict make that decision whether they want alternate or not, if they don't want alternate you cant do much other than coming up with some other alternate scenarios or repeating the same all over again. Waning is very tedious and dangerous, you are pushing a person to enjoy his addiction to hilt and hoping that he will get bored of it.

Most probably addict do demonstrate pendulum like behaviour from addiction to abstinence, If that happens you are in luck. Half the battle is won. Now shoot for equilibrium to begin with and keep shifting equilibrium position over time.

I respect people who don't have any addictions or those who have tread on path of abstinence. But then I am also cautious of extreme behaviour of any sort because opposites do exist, and I am wary of the both. I am equally scared of puritans as I am scared of addicts, both stick vehemently to their ways one is prescribed (moral) and other one is abhorred (immoral). Hitler and Gandhi are both victims of extremism of their cause. In real world moderation works.

As one great soul once said abstinence from evil will be better enforced once evil is understood. our society does not do a task of making evil understood but enforces Avoidance. Avoidance has made our Hindu society a paralytic genius who can churn and crunch information but in body that has no strength or vitality and hence inept of glory. Also, Evil as described is not usually evil till until it manifests itself as addiction

As I write this I want to draw on my own afflictions of mind, body and soul, and manifestations in our society such as mumbai glory on 31st December, 2007, or Aussies leveling greatness, or our fanatics, Gandhian and puritans

I have another debate afflictions of mind vs body and superiority of mind vs body. well that is for later or for never.